Dead or Alive?

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Life is great and offers us many opportunities and plenty of ups and downs. While we live and go through the many struggles and accomplishments in life, the single biggest event that changes our life is death. It’s the one thing that we’re guaranteed out of anything, and one thing we can’t avoid.

In looking at life and death, do we mean more to people if we’re dead versus being alive? Yes, life is great and precious, but there are so many things that we’re not told about while we’re alive. Reflecting on any normal funeral and the recent deaths of some well-known celebrities, we as a society don’t truly appreciate a person or their accomplishments until they’re gone.

Life

While we’re alive, we spend so much time living our lives and dealing with our life struggles. We all genuinely have the greatest intentions, but we get caught up in life. Instead of sharing the things that we can easily be proud of someone for or truly loving them, we hold back and assume that this person will be around forever.

Death

The most unfortunate thing about death is that we hear all the things that we would’ve wanted to hear when we were alive and on the other side, we say all the things that we meant to say when someone was alive. While you’re alive, you’ll rarely hear how big of a heart you had, the amazing things you accomplished and how much people loved you; nor do we take the time to tell someone that they’re great at these things. Death tends to bring out fond memories of a person, but sadly things that were never said when alive.

In conclusion, the only thing guaranteed in life is death. We’ve got to love each other when we’re alive and say what we need to say. Tomorrow is never guaranteed.

Hokding On

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In this life you go through experiences that will make you, but also experiences that will break you. With the recent passing of my father, I began to remember him and the life that he led. Along with remembering how amazing my dad was, I also begin holding on.

By holding on, you’re trying to hold on to the good times and great memories. When people are alive, you take things for granted and assume that tomorrow is always promised. However when they die, you hold onto things that help you remember them.

Along with the process of holding on, you realize just exactly what your parent or parents were telling you. In my situation, it was my mom first who passed, and lastly my dad. When they’re eventually gone, you realize and truly embrace the goals and expectations that they had for you. They were never put in place to ruin your life, but to enhance your life and help you grow for when you would eventually become a parent.

In closing, nothing in this world is ever promised. While our parents may tell us the things that we don’t want to hear, they’re the things that we need to hear. When your parents are gone, you hold on to what you were taught and reflect on it in times when needed most.